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Kat Inokai

As editor and publisher, Kat is the brain (and the bump) behind The Bump & Hustle. She is the face of Hustle on the Street, and co-host of The Ramble podcast. She's been a featured blogger for YummyMummyClub.ca, and her writing has appeared in Huffington Post Canada, and Metro News.

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  • It’s all in the comeback, babies. ❤️ —— People can be incredible and surprise you with the depth of their support and caring. They can also surprise you with the weirdest comments and questions. And then, all you can do is laugh. 
These are real comments and questions I’ve received both online and in person since I announced my latest flare. I present- for your entertainment- my answers. 🙊 • “I thought you were normal again. What happened?”
-  No that’s not me. I’ve never been normal. 🤣 • “Oh no are you relapsing?! What are you going to do about your trip now?”
- Enjoy it. 😎 • “I’m sorry you’re sick again. This is so tragic. Now you can’t go anywhere, you are alone... Are you contagious or are you at least allowed visitors?”
- Yes but only by daylight, only if we are chaperoned, and also only if you understand that I don’t have consumption and that I’M NOT LIVING IN AN EDITH WHARTON NOVEL. 🤦🏼‍♀️ • “Oh your poor husband. He must feel awful.”
Yes, yes he does. But don’t worry it’s just gas. 😷 • “It must be hard to set a good example for your children when you are sick all the time.”
- Nope, not really. *Unfollow. Block.* See? 🙌🏻 • “Do you think you should have had any kids knowing that you have defects? I mean, was it responsible? You’re not having any more are you?”
- Whacky! This is exactly what I was going to ask your parents too! 😁 • “Congrats on your new baby! You look great with your sweet belly. Is it too soon to know what you’re having?”
- Probably horrendously painful diarrhea, but you never know, am I right? 💩 ——- Have a gorgeous #SpoonieSaturday! xx
  • About all those things you want to do so badly:

Getting there might not feel good.
It might be messy.
It might take 1000 times.
It might take more.
You might get angry.
You might feel lost.
You might question everything.
You might quit for 30 seconds.
You might even walk away for good.
And yes you’re going to compare yourself to other people, even though you just read that inspiring book or that thing on that site about living your most authentic and unique life.
You will absolutely have flashes of ‘what the heck am I even doing’ and ‘why didn’t I just...”
You will have Scroll Envy.
You will have days where all your progress seems undermined by the weight of what still lies ahead.
And that is all ok.
Yes.
All of it.

Because you are not your achievements.
You are not your level of enlightenment.
You are not a curated front.
You are not a static opinion in someone else’s memory.
You are not your meal choice, your calorie intake or your pant size.
You are not your symptoms, your health, or your level of fitness.
You are not your darkest secret or even your biggest dreams.

So who are you?
Guess what?
I don’t know.
And I promise here and now, that I will never know.
I vow that I will never define you, or place a limit on what you can feel, believe, express, or do in this world - or any other.

You never have to live UP, love.
You just have to live.

That’s it.

I promise.

So enjoy the variety of experience today brings you and KEEP 👏🏻 GOING👏🏻. I can’t wait to hear about it all.

Love, Kat —————-
Thanks for your gorgeous and inspiring office wall, @trulyinc! 💗 And thanks again for having me on #trekitorwreckit @mattcampagna & @melissadags!  xx

#fearless #keepgoing
  • “I would never have guessed!”
That’s ok! I was in complete denial. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I am not going to lie. I was looking through weeks of our stories and I always say how my spoons are low and how “I’m pretty sure a flare is coming...” but somehow I just kept pushing through. I rallied my energy, stayed super positive, and even I was shocked when some familiar and terrifying symptoms came back to haunt me.

We were going to launch this vid before our big announcement, but I needed to give this its own moment.

This week Cap and I unleash such an important Autoimmutant superpower: TRANSPARENCY! I get super raw about what it feels like to wake up and realize you are flaring/relapsing. Cap gives some wonderful insights on how you can be supportive through it all.

Use those superpowers for good!
xx Kat ❤️ #BHSPOONIEWEDDING
Thebumpandhustle.com
  • Girl time is the best time.
A few stolen moments, tea, and secrets after our doc appointments? 
You bet I’ll take them.
I’ll take them all. 💗
• 
#itsthelittlethings
  • We are going WHERE?
Are you kidding me?! It turns out that the dynamic duo have a joint superpower they call: ROLLING WITH IT. 🙌🏻❤️ Even after a brutal day and tons of set backs, Cap and I manage to find a bit of magic in every moment. We finally share our origin story- and we drop some crazy news about the next step in our 3 prong Spoonie Wedding plan of awesomeness!

WARNING: Things get super emotional for the Autoimmutant and Cap. 😭😂 Don’t miss out!
Follow: #BHSpoonieWedding
instagram.com/bumpandhustle 
Facebook.com/thebumpandhustle
Read the latest >> thebumpandhustle.com

Use those superpowers for good!
Xo Kat
  • If -when things are good- you don’t believe in dressing up; playing with make up; dancing as much as you can around your room pretending you’re a strange hybrid of  Blake Lively, Veronica Lake, and Vicki Vale; listening to really good tunes and saying loudly in subsequent conversations about music ‘I have that on vinyl’; well, I’m not sure we can be friends. 
Oh come on who am I kidding? I mean it’s a cool pic, but I’m still me. And I have always loved how beautifully diverse this world is. We’d totally still be friends. But only if you follow two rules: You do you. 
And sing it loud.
Wait... hold on...
I have that on vinyl.
✨🙌🏻❤️✨ #youdoyou
  • Maybe she’s born with it. 
Maybe it’s time to learn how to compliment someone without talking about how they look, what they weigh, or making an assumption about their health.
Just saying. •
NEW BLOG POST >>> “But You Don’t Look Sick: Why Your Compliment Isn’t A Compliment.” (Temp link in my Insta bio.)
Many thanks to the beautiful inside and out Rachael Cameron @camrach whose DM inspired me to write my blog post- and to the countless Spoonies who reach out over this issue every day. ❤️✨ #butyoudontlooksick #spoonieproblems
  • My circus.
My monkeys.
My beautiful roller coaster.
❤️✨ Last week we were coming home from our Familymoon. This week we are back in the thick of it. Parenting tag team, battling flus, flaring like crazy, and laughing through it all. 
I really didn’t want to be right about the downward rush into a flare after the summit of joy I experienced saying “I do”, and in all honesty I shed a few tears after the familiar symptoms crept back under my skin. But then, all of a sudden, my wistful heart stopped to listen. I realized after years and years of being caught off guard by these issues and unceremoniously benched, I was finally right about my health. 
Yes, I was flaring, but we didn’t throw the dream away- we made it accessible. 
Maybe we didn’t act spontaneously, but we prepared and planned to secure our happiness in steps, and we pulled this first one off. 
We knew this week would be rough and we were ready for it. 
We had to stop for a minute, but we didn’t let illness stop US.

And now, we can recover and reminisce, and confidently enjoy the build of each moment until our much needed private vows and honeymoon in March.

The next little step in our journey of We Do. ❤️ • >> our latest IGTV is ‘the one right after the wedding’ and I talk watching energy, saving spoons, and my first big Spoonie Wedding takeaway. 😘
#bhspooniewedding
  • My anxiety almost stopped me from sharing something I wrote. It’s not the first time it’s done this. Sometimes it wins. Now as open as I am, you don’t see that Kat. Even if I want to share it, I can’t. She is engulfed in silence. She struggles to sort fact from feeling. She hides, frozen, waiting patiently to dislodge herself one breath at a time. On good days she does. And on not so great days, like today, it’s a stalemate. 
Anxiety holds me hostage, and somehow I hit ‘share’ anyways.

Because even if you quake not knowing what will happen next - even if you lose today- know that your voice opens a door. And we are not alone if we-

Keep sharing
Keep breathing
Keep feeling
Keep making
Keep breaking
Keep going
Keep talking

Always, keep talking. ❤️ Here is the piece that Anxiety battled me for. 👇🏻 •

It’s not our strengths that unite us.
It’s our willingness to be raw and real; to expose the secret tide of vulnerability that flows just under our veneer.
We all feel.
We all navigate the depths of emotion.
We all experience the frigid turbulence of upheaval.
We all cling to the fleeting sojourn in happiness-
We mourn its loss and even battle gratitude until we can be reconciled with that brevity.
We all struggle with impermanence.
We all ask why, what if, and how until we are dizzy and breathless.
It is this thread of questions that rips at our souls which in turn binds our understanding of one another.
We were never meant to stay silent, my love.
We were never meant to swallow our own noise.
We were meant to bare even our most cacophonous sound;
And we were meant to listen- 
To hear the complex overture of all our overlapping themes.
To realize that in fact, there is only one.
And to embrace that we are all
instrumental to each other. •

#bellletstalk #mentalhealthawareness

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  • It’s all in the comeback, babies. ❤️ —— People can be incredible and surprise you with the depth of their support and caring. They can also surprise you with the weirdest comments and questions. And then, all you can do is laugh. 
These are real comments and questions I’ve received both online and in person since I announced my latest flare. I present- for your entertainment- my answers. 🙊 • “I thought you were normal again. What happened?”
-  No that’s not me. I’ve never been normal. 🤣 • “Oh no are you relapsing?! What are you going to do about your trip now?”
- Enjoy it. 😎 • “I’m sorry you’re sick again. This is so tragic. Now you can’t go anywhere, you are alone... Are you contagious or are you at least allowed visitors?”
- Yes but only by daylight, only if we are chaperoned, and also only if you understand that I don’t have consumption and that I’M NOT LIVING IN AN EDITH WHARTON NOVEL. 🤦🏼‍♀️ • “Oh your poor husband. He must feel awful.”
Yes, yes he does. But don’t worry it’s just gas. 😷 • “It must be hard to set a good example for your children when you are sick all the time.”
- Nope, not really. *Unfollow. Block.* See? 🙌🏻 • “Do you think you should have had any kids knowing that you have defects? I mean, was it responsible? You’re not having any more are you?”
- Whacky! This is exactly what I was going to ask your parents too! 😁 • “Congrats on your new baby! You look great with your sweet belly. Is it too soon to know what you’re having?”
- Probably horrendously painful diarrhea, but you never know, am I right? 💩 ——- Have a gorgeous #SpoonieSaturday! xx
  • About all those things you want to do so badly:

Getting there might not feel good.
It might be messy.
It might take 1000 times.
It might take more.
You might get angry.
You might feel lost.
You might question everything.
You might quit for 30 seconds.
You might even walk away for good.
And yes you’re going to compare yourself to other people, even though you just read that inspiring book or that thing on that site about living your most authentic and unique life.
You will absolutely have flashes of ‘what the heck am I even doing’ and ‘why didn’t I just...”
You will have Scroll Envy.
You will have days where all your progress seems undermined by the weight of what still lies ahead.
And that is all ok.
Yes.
All of it.

Because you are not your achievements.
You are not your level of enlightenment.
You are not a curated front.
You are not a static opinion in someone else’s memory.
You are not your meal choice, your calorie intake or your pant size.
You are not your symptoms, your health, or your level of fitness.
You are not your darkest secret or even your biggest dreams.

So who are you?
Guess what?
I don’t know.
And I promise here and now, that I will never know.
I vow that I will never define you, or place a limit on what you can feel, believe, express, or do in this world - or any other.

You never have to live UP, love.
You just have to live.

That’s it.

I promise.

So enjoy the variety of experience today brings you and KEEP 👏🏻 GOING👏🏻. I can’t wait to hear about it all.

Love, Kat —————-
Thanks for your gorgeous and inspiring office wall, @trulyinc! 💗 And thanks again for having me on #trekitorwreckit @mattcampagna & @melissadags!  xx

#fearless #keepgoing
  • “I would never have guessed!”
That’s ok! I was in complete denial. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I am not going to lie. I was looking through weeks of our stories and I always say how my spoons are low and how “I’m pretty sure a flare is coming...” but somehow I just kept pushing through. I rallied my energy, stayed super positive, and even I was shocked when some familiar and terrifying symptoms came back to haunt me.

We were going to launch this vid before our big announcement, but I needed to give this its own moment.

This week Cap and I unleash such an important Autoimmutant superpower: TRANSPARENCY! I get super raw about what it feels like to wake up and realize you are flaring/relapsing. Cap gives some wonderful insights on how you can be supportive through it all.

Use those superpowers for good!
xx Kat ❤️ #BHSPOONIEWEDDING
Thebumpandhustle.com
  • Girl time is the best time.
A few stolen moments, tea, and secrets after our doc appointments? 
You bet I’ll take them.
I’ll take them all. 💗
• 
#itsthelittlethings
  • We are going WHERE?
Are you kidding me?! It turns out that the dynamic duo have a joint superpower they call: ROLLING WITH IT. 🙌🏻❤️ Even after a brutal day and tons of set backs, Cap and I manage to find a bit of magic in every moment. We finally share our origin story- and we drop some crazy news about the next step in our 3 prong Spoonie Wedding plan of awesomeness!

WARNING: Things get super emotional for the Autoimmutant and Cap. 😭😂 Don’t miss out!
Follow: #BHSpoonieWedding
instagram.com/bumpandhustle 
Facebook.com/thebumpandhustle
Read the latest >> thebumpandhustle.com

Use those superpowers for good!
Xo Kat
  • If -when things are good- you don’t believe in dressing up; playing with make up; dancing as much as you can around your room pretending you’re a strange hybrid of  Blake Lively, Veronica Lake, and Vicki Vale; listening to really good tunes and saying loudly in subsequent conversations about music ‘I have that on vinyl’; well, I’m not sure we can be friends. 
Oh come on who am I kidding? I mean it’s a cool pic, but I’m still me. And I have always loved how beautifully diverse this world is. We’d totally still be friends. But only if you follow two rules: You do you. 
And sing it loud.
Wait... hold on...
I have that on vinyl.
✨🙌🏻❤️✨ #youdoyou

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